Today I’m doing a post with my friend Claire from Chasing Kites in Neverland!!!
Today, we’re having a talk but not just any talk a girl talk.(Now is the time to make yourself coffee)If you have any questions comment them down below! We think that it’s important to share this with y’all (never used that word before) because it’s important to share, what you know, what you feel, what you think. This is a girl talk but share this with everyone☺
- Why I’m too scared to go running👣
Everyday,all over the world you hear about people getting kidnapped and mugged and a lot of other scary things. We live in a world where having a million locks on your door and a high-tech alarm system is normal. The fact that I can’t even go running without the fear of something happening to me is scary and I just don’t understand… I don’t understand why this is normal. Running is my passion, it makes me happy, I hate that people can’t do the things they love because they don’t feel safe.
- GET IT TOGETHER!
Why do I have to dress a certain way, act a certain way, think a certain way? Why should I let society define me and tell me what I can and cannot do? The fact that you allow people to, have that control over you sucks. ”You have to because you’re a woman” is such a stupid thing to say because I don’t have to anything, if in 2017 you’re still letting society define you that needs to stop. Be confident in yourself because at the end of the day you don’t need to look like the girl on the cover of that magazine because you are gorgeous right now! I know who I am and who I want to be and I am so sick of society trying to define that. Today I define me! And you can try to label all those amazing men and women who don’t let society define them but those labels don’t mean anything until you accept them!
If there’s one struggle we can all agree is real, it’s the one for good eyebrows.
(They are life right now, right?)
Basically every girl I know spends an unbelievable amount of time thinking about waxing vs threading, watching YouTube tutorials of how to achieve the perfect arch, and testing out all the products in creation to find something that will actually make their brows look ‘fleeky’. (I think this word was basically invented for eyebrows. THAT’s how important they are right now – they have their own word.)
Because somehow good eyebrows have become the new must have fashion accessory. And if you don’t have them, well, it’s easy to feel a little bit left out.
(Trust me, I understand this feeling all too well. Over the years mine haven’t just been terrible, they have been several different types of terrible. They started out being blonde and virtually invisible, to being over-plucked and clumsily pencilled on like two shoestring rainbows, to basically looking like I’d got a McDonald’s M style mono-brow resting on my forehead.)
But no matter how bad you think they are, persevere with them. Don’t settle for less than the brows you deserve. Keep practicing until have your dream ones. All that effort will be so worthwhile on the blissful day when some random girl looks at you at says, ‘wow, your brows are on point!’
- Social Media📱
I’m not afraid to admit that I’m pretty anti-social media. I haven’t had Facebook in years, I lasted on Twitter for about a month and I haven’t even dared to try Instagram. Why?
Because I quite simply can’t handle it. Looking through endless streams of other people and their seemingly perfect lives always made me feel a little depressed. I compared myself to everyone I saw and always felt inferior because I can’t take the perfect selfie, I don’t have holiday hot dog legs (mine are too pale), and I’m not part of a squad who goes out every week and has too much fun for one picture to handle.
I realised that, so I was happy to remove myself from the realm of social media. I don’t really feel like I’m missing out too much, but I know I’m in a minority. (Seriously, how many people do you know who aren’t on some kind of social media?)
That’s because there’s a real pressure for girls (and guys!) to be on social media now. (Even my 10 year old cousin is on the countdown until she’s allowed to have Instagram!) But it’s not enough to just be on there – you almost feel like you’ve got to have a perfect life on there. Because everyone else is putting their perfect life on there.
You see the perfect selfie snap – but you don’t see the fifty other snaps with the closed eyes and bad lighting. You see the holiday hot dog legs – but you don’t see the pictures of head to toe sun burn. You see the fun squad pictures, but you don’t see the back stabbing and gossiping.
Basically, you’re only ever seeing the highlights of someone’s life – try to remember that.
- Equal pay💲
A lot of people don’t believe this is still an issue. They automatically just think, ‘yeah, it’s 2017 now, of course everyone gets paid the same.’
On average men are still getting paid more than women. To provide a pretty scary statistic to demonstrate that…from 10th November 2016 to the beginning of 2017, women were basically working for free. Insane, right?
This. Has. Got. To. Stop.
The pressure to have the perfect body.
We’re living in a time where girls are bombarded (and I don’t use that word lightly) with ideals that make them think one of the foundations to a truly happy existence, is being 100% body perfect (I don’t use that word lightly either.) Because ‘perfect’ is the only way to be – or at least the version of ‘perfect’ that is being forced on us. (You know the one I mean. It’s not like there’s a great deal of variation in the portrayal of beauty. It’s much more a one-size-fits-all kind of standard.But I’m not here to preach; I’m in no position to do that.
I’m a little ashamed to admit that I’ve been pressured into doing some unhealthy, crazy – and even scary – things to be thinner. They’ve included working out like a maniac, drinking green tea every hour, and forgoing any food that isn’t completely devoid of taste. They became my rituals, and without them I feared that I would automatically gain three stone and my world would be over. Sounds dramatic – and more than a little bit embarrassing – but I know I’m definitely not on my own. Every girl I know has a deeply insecure relationship with their body, and their diet, to the point where being healthy isn’t a priority anymore.
I’ve learnt to be better as I’ve gotten older – but I’m nowhere near perfectly recovered from that state of mind. It still ruins my day if my jeans are too tight, and I still can’t risk weighing myself without getting obsessed. It means I can’t provide too much of a definite conclusion here, but I can say that if you ever feel like this too – you’re definitely not on your own.
I was going to leave it there, but then another one occurred to me…
It’s the shortest one, but ironically it’s actually one of the biggest.
There’s a whole load of pressures and issues that are not quite the same as any of the others. It basically in a whole league of its own, and it’s contained in everything we read, watch and – at least for me – has underpinned almost all of my thoughts since I was fourteen.
(What on Earth is that all about?!)
Maybe we’ll try and talk about it sometime. (Although maybe that would be like the blind leading the blind? Dating is SO much harder than good eyebrows.) But right now we have to go and fight over who loves Leonardo Di Caprio more. (Obviously me.)
We honestly hope you enjoyed our very first collab as much we did. (We’re both basically somewhere over the moon right now.)
When I went on camp at the beginning of the year we did this thing, to support each other and went something like this:
Round of applause-then we’d clap while moving our hands to form a circle
Seal of approval-then we’d make seal noises
Take a bow-and you’d take a bow
Chips:And the first time I read this, that’s exactly what I did! Claire you’re an amazing writer please don’t ever stop!!!
Claire:Chips, you are equally an amazing writer. When you get to my age you will be all kinds of sensational. (I’m actually worried for how incredible you’re going to be!)
And to all of you out there, who took the time to read this: THANK YOU
Please stick around – there will be plenty more from us soon. Oh, and don’t be shy about contacting us if you want to help out with the next one. We’re always on the hunt for new friends, and we want this to reflect ALL girls – so we’d honestly love to hear from you. 😊